6 Ways To Keep The Spark Alive In Your Relationship—Even When You Live Together

Feel more like roommates than lovers?

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One of the most exciting things about a new relationship is that initial spark (read: you can barely keep your paws to yourself!) But as time goes by, losing that spark is often inevitable, especially if you live together. Yep, sharing a bed, a wardrobe, a bathroom, and sometimes beauty products with your partner has its perks, but it can also make you feel more like roommates than lovers. It’s all too easy to get comfortable in the same routine (or position) and forget to pay attention to each other when life gets busy.

So, if you feel things are getting a bit stagnant or even if they aren’t but would just like to mix it up even more, here are some top tips to keep things fun and fresh.

1Sleep together—literally

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Hands up if you’ve every stayed up late to binge-watch The Crown, while your partner sleeps in the next room? Sorry to break it to you, but differing sleep schedules may seem like no biggie, but it’s more harmful than you realise. It has actually been scientifically proven that couples who go to sleep at the same time are more intimate and connected—not just physically, but also emotionally—compared to those who don’t.

2Be adventurous

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Between the initial infatuation and the long-term commitment of living together, there’s often a sex drought. And that’s totally normal! But, as well all know, sex is super important in a relationship. Maybe finding porn you both like, buying a sex toy, sending dirty messages throughout the day, trying a new position once a week or even switching up the timing of your time between the sheets could help reignite that spark.

3Swap the PJs for something sexier

We’re sure your partner thinks your sexy in your sweats, but that doesn’t mean they won’t appreciate a little effort in the form of a new pair of underwear (or perhaps none at all!). We bet you’ll love the self-confidence boost, too.

4Try a new hobby together

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Once a month, try and do something non-sexual together. Take a road trip, go rock climbing or whatever takes your fancy really. We guarantee it’ll make you feel more excited to jump back into bed when you’re done.

5Perform a random act of kindness every day

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Surprise your honey with breakfast in bed, leave a sweet note in their wallet, or make their favourite meal for dinner. If you get into a habit of showing your appreciation regularly, you (and your significant other) will find it more rewarding than the occasional grand gesture.

6Focus on the things that you love about each other

Sure, there are qualities our partners poses that are, let’s be frank, downright annoying. And vice versa. But if you really want to make it in the long haul you’ve got to make a conscious effort to focus on the things that you love about your partner. Try and let the rest go.