For many of us the art of self care seems to have been lost. We have forgotten how to put ourselves first in a way that feels nourishing for our bodies, minds and spirits. To create a balanced life that feels good from the inside out. Here five self care lessons I wish I’d known years ago.
Sometimes we think we need to ‘earn’ time out as a reward for working so hard. We don’t think about slowing down or relaxing until we are overwhelmed with stress. What about if we switched this thinking around? What about if you looked after yourself before you drove yourself into the ground? If you could work hard without burning out, you would see your productivity increase and resentment, fatigue and stress decrease. So let’s try reframing our thinking.
You don’t need to get weekly massages and manicures to look after yourself. Although these are both lovely sometimes! You could spend an hour in a cafe just writing, herbal tea by your side. You could take your dog for a long walk and midway through, just lie down on the grass and cloud-gaze with your fur baby. You can read an old favourite book, or call up an old girlfriend for some nostalgic chats.
In fact, it’s quite the opposite. When you put yourself first you are essentially making it easier for yourself to look after other people too. You can’t love someone or care for them properly if you’re feeling exhausted, drained and resentful. Look after yourself and see your compassion for others rise to a new level.
It might be a long lunch with your girlfriends, or a night at home on the couch with a good book. Don’t judge yourself for what you want; just give it to yourself with kindness.
Seriously, it’s more important than you realise. You are worthy of self care, and once you see this, your world can change.