Words by Rachel Holm, co-founder of Hanako Therapies.
The saying is so very true, that becoming a parent is one of the most rewarding jobs, but it is also one of the hardest.
Nothing can prepare you for the endless nights of sleep deprivation, the demands of a child or the simple fact that you are 100% responsible for the life of another human being. When you’re a new mum it can be very easy to let the smallest things escalate and make you feel overwhelmed. And although it’s normal to be entirely focused on your child, it’s still important to not neglect your own needs.
So to keep calm, remain centred and present, and actually enjoy the most incredible job in the world, here are a few things you can do.
If you have a new born the golden key is to sleep when the baby sleeps and if you’re one that has a hard time sleeping during the day, then use the time for meditation. Resting allows you to mentally, physically and spiritually recharge.
Even if it is for just 5 minutes each day to tune in, regain your focus, come back to centre and allow yourself to feel your breath – the depth, the width and the length.
Do something for yourself that allows you to slow down and be mindful. For example, it could be as simple as pouring yourself a cup of herbal tea and sitting outside in the fresh air to drink it. With each sip imagine you are drinking in healing and supportive energy.
Get the body moving and get the endorphins pumping. This can be a brisk walk, a jog with the pram or a session at the gym. Most gyms have a crèche these days, utilise this option and take an hour for yourself. Try a class, lift some weights, go for a swim or box; listen to your body and it’ll let you know how it needs to move.
When all the little ones are down for the night, run a bath and put in some Epsom salts or a few drops of lavender essential oil (known for its ability to relax and reconnect with the lightness of spirit). Become aware of any tension in the body and let the warmth of the bath melt it away.
Let the therapy of touch help to calm the body and mind.
Be kind, gentle and nurturing to yourself as you are to your child. If you feel your emotions getting away from you, take 10 deep breaths, feel the mind settle, put your hand on your heart and tell yourself something positive.
Rachel Holm, along with her husband Jeff, founded essential oil brand, Hanako Therapies. Originally a professional dancer, Rachel always had an interest in alternative methods of healing but it wasn’t until the devastating loss of the pair’s first child that led them to re-evaluate their life purpose and path. Now, with a business, a young family, and professions in acting and dancing, the duo are experts in keeping it together and continuing to succeed.