The Real Reason You Might Be Losing Your Sex Drive

It's not you, it's your relationship.

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If your sex drive seems lower than usual, the seriousness of your relationship could be a very good explanation for why.


In the journal BMJ Open, 15 percent of men and 34 percent of women answered that they had a lack of interest in sex for at least three months out of the previous year. But those aren’t the most whopping revelations.

Both men and women reported losing a bit more interest in sex over the years, but for women, the real drop in drive came when they were either living with a partner or had been in their exclusive relationship for at least one year. That means, the longer the relationship, the lower the libido.

“For women, in particular, the quality and length of relationship and communication with their partners are important in their experience of sexual interest,” said Cynthia Graham, the lead author of the study. “It highlights the need to assess and – if necessary – treat sexual interest problems in a holistic and relationship, as well as gender-specific way.”

So, the longer, more committed, and more serious the relationship, the lower the sex drive becomes? Apparently so. Researchers argue — and many agree — that the sex drive is the highest and the passion the, ahem, hottest, at the start of the relationship. And as the emotional bond grows, the physical starts to fall, especially when other factors come into play.

From having to care for small children and increasing stress, to being on the pill, women’s libido naturally start to fall (but there is a way to get your sex drive back when you’re on oral contraceptives),

But that doesn’t mean all is lost. Far from that, actually. Getting more sleep and more sunshine are just two ways to boost your sex drive, and sex-centric yoga positions can help to amp up your desire to get in the sack with your partner. Better yet, turning up the heat in your bedroom by adding aphrodisiac foods into your diet. You’ll see that sex drive turn around in no time.